3nder is For Kinky, Curious Lovers in Our Review

Editor's Rating

7 /10

User Rating

4 Stars
Rachel Brewson
Editor, Dating

When an app with the mission of expanding your sexual horizons comes along, it almost feels like a slap in the face to call it just a dating app. This is what makes 3nder so different. You’re not hoping for a pleasant first date with trite conversation when you use 3nder (pronounced thrinder). When you use this app, you’re looking to get frisky with a couple other people. Kinky and curious couples and singles looking to share some love with a group are the target market for 3nder. And with the app’s clean design and great options for users to express their individual sexuality, this may be the app to scratch that itch.

Profiles 8

The required Facebook verification may put some off if they had hoped to remain anonymous, but once verified 3nder allows you to choose your own name. The level of accuracy 3nder affords you when describing your sexuality is uncanny. You can select from the following list: Straight, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Polysexual, Queer, Androgynosexual, Androsexual, Asexual, Autosexual, Demisexual, Gray-A, Gynosexual, Heteroflexible, Homoflexible, Objectumsexual, Omnisexual, Skoliosexual. Surely, this is among the most exhaustive lists of sexual identities, which should help you find your niche quite easily.

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Matching 7

Swipe up if you like what you see. Swipe down if you’re not interested.

Swipe right for more picture, left for bio, desires and interests. Once matched you can initiate a chat with each match or create a group chat and add any amount of matches.

Filters 8

You’ve got your standard dating filters like distance and gender, but 3nder also includes options for choosing group genders for couples, man and woman, two men, two women, and transgender.

Communication 7

Once you match, you can begin chatting. You can also create a group chat with other profiles that like you as well. This is one of the biggest differences with 3nder than other dating apps, you can incorporate your other matches to plan large-scale orgies with as many members as you choose! The only prerequisite is that you have matched with each member you include in the group.

Value 5

When you first open the app, there’s an immediate request to try Majestic free for 7 days, this is the paid version of 3nder. With Majestic, you’ll get Incognito mode so your Facebook friends who might be on 3nder as well won’t see you; Stand out, which is just a special badge that shows up on your profile; you’ll also get to see the members who liked you that you didn’t like. And 3nder says that more benefits are on the way. It seems right now, the best additional feature for the paid version is to hide from your Facebook friends on the platform.

The free version works well enough to find plenty of nearby threesome and orgy hopefuls. Go get some. Or a lot. With 3nder, the sky’s the limit!

Rachel Brewson
Editor, Dating

Rachel Brewson, Dating Editor, has played matchmaker and dating coach to friends and colleagues, as well as written for xoJane, Thought Catalog and a handful of online blogs. She loves craft beer, the beach, and warm LA nights.


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